In a film I recently watched, a young man asked a woman he was getting to know what she was looking for in a husband. Her response was not one you commonly hear. She simply said:
“I would like to find somebody who I felt knew me very well. I want to be known very well by somebody.”
This statement possibly embodies the deepest desire of the human heart since the beginning of creation. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a romantic relationship—whether the need for connection and acceptance is filled by a parent, sibling, friend or life partner, don’t we all long for the type of relationship in which we can be fully known? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we never felt like we have to hide parts of ourselves to be loved and accepted by others?
Sadly, in seeking out the fulfilment of this need, many people end up putting their trust or hope in relationships or activities that actually have the opposite effect, leaving them feeling ashamed, empty and disappointed. And that perpetuates the cycle of looking for one’s own worth in all the wrong places.
Others may feel satisfied that they have that kind of intimate relationship in their lives and put all their hopes on that one person. This can also be a set-up for disappointment. There is only one guaranteed way to fill the need to be known.
We sometimes forget that we already are known—and loved—fully. There is Someone who knows us “very well” because He made us. We may feel, however, that God cannot fulfil our need for intimacy because He’s too far away and not in the flesh. I am coming to the conclusion that this assumption is the result of not knowing God ourselves.
In Philippians 3:10, Paul said that he wanted to know Christ. Jesus prayed in the garden: “Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.” (John 17:3) There are many other Bible verses that talk about the importance of knowing God, His Word and His love. The amazing thing is that it is possible to know God personally and intimately.
If the young woman in the movie was not willing to know her future husband as well as she expected him to know her, that relationship would not survive for long. In the same way, we cannot expect God’s knowledge of us to be enough to experience joy and peace in our Christian walk. We must be willing to invest the time and effort to get to know Him as well.
I encourage you to read Psalm 139:1-16 for extra reassurance about how well God knows you, His dearly beloved!
1. You can download three colouring freebies that I created for Tyndale right here! You’ll find a calendar for May, a simple Mother’s Day card and a doodle that you can share on social media.
2. You can also print out and enjoy this free colouring page! (Click on the image to enlarge it.)
3. Local friends, don’t forget that the Restore My Soul book launch and colouring party is coming up on Saturday, May 7! Here’s a link to the event information page on Facebook: www.facebook.com/events/1513355205636290. Please let me know if you need more details.
4. Check out my latest feature in the May/June issue of In Touch magazine!
Made in Vietnam
“In 2008, Bob Roberts Jr. picked up a chair used during a prayer meeting the night before and noticed a sticker that made him weep. It didn’t bear an inspiring message or Bible verse. It wasn’t a cheery smile or heart. It was a manufacturer’s label that simply indicated where the chair had been made: Vietnam”
That’s it for today! Before I sign off: Please be sure to connect with me on Instagram if you use that app. I’m at www.instagram.com/annhovsepian.
See you later!